Re: insurance, I live in Southern California, right where what fires caused so much damage and could have caused more, and immediately after my insurance company tried to cancel my homeowners insurance. They made up absolute bullshit that this was not my “primary residence” (it’s my ONLY residence and has been since 2008) and if my elderly boomer parents didn’t have a longstanding relationship with the agent I would have been toast. Even the agent couldn’t explain the cynical moves of the higher-ups.
I’m also in a position where my “day job” has me thinking about and dealing with redhat-based horror on the daily, which means I feel awful when I am thinking about it and even worse when I realize I’m not, because I always feel like a should be. Even my “night job” in regional theatre is currently haunted by the economic foolishness and social cruelty that abounds.
I’ll be real: I don’t just love toys these days, I *cling* to them for sanity and solace, and also a bit as a ‘fuck you’ to the dominant paradigm that wants to try to tell me what a “real man” should and shouldn’t want and do and be.
I feel cowardly and weak for saying so, but getting cut off from that joy definitely worries me. It feels very selfish to worry about such things, and yet.
All of this is to say that I am incredibly grateful for this community, and what seems to be a strong start in building a *real* community where we can speak of such things.
It’s hard to keep the assholes out: I remember times on the ‘old board’ when we’d get some real bad actors shredding on “woke” and talking large about redhat-adjacent stuff. I come from the goth and punk subcultures, and there’s an old story about a punk bar where one guy wearing some Nazi regalia comes in to drink and the bartender immediately throws the guy out even though he was being “nice” and not causing trouble. Story goes, of course, that the bartender has experience with how this goes: one shows up and acts polite, then he brings a friend and then that friend brings a friend and before you know it your bar is full of Nazis and you run a Nazi bar now. I think that’s even more true (and more difficult to deal with) online, and this place is off to a great start with that.
I hate to catastrophize, but keeping fascists out of kind spaces is now a necesssry reality.
Woof. Anyway, it’s nice to have a space that feels safe, and to have people around who seem committed to preserving that safety.
We will get through this. Together.