The Relationship Overshare Thread

Well and even if sometimes I'm in the mood for something, there are some moments where I'm severely NOT in the mood for some things. So much so that I may say "fuck it" and vindictively do away with an app or whatever. I'd rather do without! In fact that's part of why I've stayed off social media for a few years now. That and how much time I was wasting on bullshit.
 
Niko (protozoalord) said:
(adopted a new kitty)
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I'm afraid I must be "that guy" and request pics of said kitty in the pet thread. You don't have to share if you don't want to, of course, but I really do just love seeing any and everyone's kitty (no euphemism there, I swear).

I get the algorithm thirst trap thing. It's just as bad on the other side of the fence, believe me. There really is a weird kinda post-nut clarity in that regard- I guess in this instance, it would be a no-nut clarity, but still. It really does depend on my mood if I'm even somewhat interested in a thirst trap. Sometimes it's nice, sometimes the only chiseled physique I wanna see is on an action figure, thank you so much (god I feel like such a nerd saying that, but it's true). Maybe because, like you alt, I've had some not-go-great experiences in the past, which does totally change your perspective on things. There's a weird undercurrent of lack of consent when you see something like that online. I know it's the internet and you kinda have to just expect that kind of thing, but it's a shame it's come to that.

On the other hand, I do think people need to start admitting that they would like attention by posting thirst traps, though. There's nothing wrong with it! Don't get me wrong- it doesn't excuse the creeps and any unsolicited harrassment, but still- we all want/need an ego boost from time to time. Every now and then, when all the stars perfectly align and I'm feeling a little more proud of my body, I'll post a pic where I'm a bit more posed or showing off a bit more of this pasty white skin, and while it's totally true that I'm posting just because I'm feeling good and celebrating myself, there is that part of me that would absolutely love someone else to validate those feelings. Rarely happens (and oddly, when it does, it's never from the people I'm hoping for, which is a whole other issue/discussion, I'm sure). That's a whole other symptom of this social media culture- the weird playing coy we all do at times. Who knows why we do it? It's not like we're superior if we claim not to like compliments. Obviously there's different levels- showing off a little post-gym progress pic is different than a buns-out lip reading, if you catch my drift. I could never be that proud of my body, but if you are, then by all means, go for it! I just wish there were ways to tell the algorithm which ones you wanna see.
 
Ru1977 said:
Well and even if sometimes I'm in the mood for something, there are some moments where I'm severely NOT in the mood for some things. So much so that I may say "fuck it" and vindictively do away with an app or whatever. I'd rather do without! In fact that's part of why I've stayed off social media for a few years now. That and how much time I was wasting on bullshit.
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Oh, definitely! One thing that drives me nuts is that YouTube will decide to not only play the same artist over and over, but the same damned SONGS by that artist! Some days I want to listen to Horror Punk, sometimes I'm more in the mood for classic 70's Funk, and sometimes I want to listen to a film score. I mean, yeah....I really enjoy "This Corrosion" by Sisters of Mercy, but do you have to play it after every gawddammed video I watch? At the very least, play a different frickin' tune from them!
 
joshsquash729 said:
On the other hand, I do think people need to start admitting that they would like attention by posting thirst traps, though.
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Friend of mine kept complaining about Sweatpants Season on the gay side of tiktok. I didn't believe them.

Then a woman friend told me about all the men baiting cooking and woodworking with sweatpants and dicks.

Then someone else told me. And someone told me why they do it on their content.

And now I can't unsee it.

Which is fine. Do it. But be honest why you're making and consuming. That's all I want from the world. But I'm told that's my Justice autism.
 
My advice is to avoid the algorithmic stuff altogether. I still spend too much time on social—largely Bluesky, reading news from sources I self-selected—but I actively avoid the stuff Instagram and Bluesky select for me.

I pop in a few times a day to read stuff from people I follow, but the For You page is a shitshow. They're not even close to selecting content that would keep me on the platform. I'm good with that.
 
When I think about the knuckle-dragging, under-educated, absolute shit heel opinions I had in my teens and early 20s I just thank all the unknown wonders of the universe that I was a shy, lonely, and anxious shut-in that was unable to spread his particular flavor of fuckery to anyone unfortunate enough to think I was worth listening to. Maybe that's part of why I have a hard vacuum of tolerance for bigotry, because I entertained some of those ideas (never fully believed, but wondered) and realized how dumb they are. If I know better, why the fuck don't others?
 
Totally. I think so many of us are glad that social media and even recording devices were not around in our youth. The question has been asked if that will impact that generation as they become politicians and celebrities and I unfortunately think that rather than be seen as an embarrassment later in life society has just leaned into a lack of empathy in general. That's... one solution I guess.
 
Chooch555 said:
Totally. I think so many of us are glad that social media and even recording devices were not around in our youth. The question has been asked if that will impact that generation as they become politicians and celebrities and I unfortunately think that rather than be seen as an embarrassment later in life society has just leaned into a lack of empathy in general. That's... one solution I guess.
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We already see the impact where Vance and Hegseth and others treat the administration like 2006 4chan.
 
Worse... I think the 'social media generation' is partly eschewing public service BECAUSE they don't want to defend stupid things they said when they were 16 years old. To a lot of people that might otherwise want to help people, it's just not worth being dragged through the mud by BOTH sides. Because yes, we do have a virtue signaling and performative outrage problem on the Left, and there's tons of purity testing. "Oh, you used 'gay' as a pejorative in 1998? I might as well just vote for Trump, you guys are all the same!"

I would 100%, even as a kid of the '80s and '90s, not want to run for office in the current political climate of each side digging up ANY piece of dirt or former relation they can find to paint you in a bad light. My guys, I've done some really shitty fucking things. I've said really shitty things. I've been a legitimately bad person in the past. I would bet both my nuts that I'd be a better governor, senator, or president than anyone currently holding a public office today. But on the way to the trying of it, I would get absolutely destroyed by both parties; one for my current beliefs and the other for my past. I do not believe for a second I'm alone in being aware of that.
 
Yeah, it's funny because of the people that usually get witch hunted for that, if that's the phrase, usually are the ones trying to turn themselves around. Or at least make the effort.

It's the ones that unapologetically triple down, like the esteemed president, are the ones that always get the pass and the hand wave. And even then I respect someone doubling or tripling down on it versus the people that give non-answers.

" So are you racist?"
"I just... when I have something to say, I'll put it out there."

It's a real layup, dude. Just say no. You can even lie.
 
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