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I mean I'm cool to hang out, though I don't play D&D - never have- so I'd be like the confused villager that accidentally got brought along on the journey.
 
PantherCult said:
I mean I'm cool to hang out, though I don't play D&D - never have- so I'd be like the confused villager that accidentally got brought along on the journey.
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When we convince Doc to run Draw Steel (different game, just like D&D), we'll ALL be learning it together. So you won't feel like you're the odd man out when you're confused.
 
I mean I just moved the oldest to Tacoma so I could sort of double dip and arrange a visit to see him and then bounce up to Seattle for a get together.
 
PantherCult said:
I mean I'm cool to hang out, though I don't play D&D - never have- so I'd be like the confused villager that accidentally got brought along on the journey.
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I try to run the lowest pressure games humanly possible so if you ever did want to join in, I am 1,000% sure you'd fit right in. Just say the word.

And yeah, I was also stressing a bit - are we going to be SUPER awkward meeting each other on camera for the first time? But it felt like an old reunion. Gonna be fun playing the game. (My partner was like--hey, who's in this game today? Me: Bunch of dudes I talk about action figures with on the internet, nothing to worry about.)
 
I met one dude from the online toy community once (more specifically, RTM Toy Buzz)...

We were meeting up to snag a figure I bought off of him.

At first, he was completely normal, if not a little enthusiastic and hyper, which is the opposite of me. I'm a generally very laid-back and calm person, personality wise. His energy was not my energy, which is fine, but it was not someone I could spend hours at a time with. He was a Golden Lab in human form, so my social battery drained quickly around him, and I cut out fairly quickly. Not rudely, but I gave what I felt was an appropriate amount of time, and took off.

I figured that was that. Cool to meet someone new, but...nah, I'm good on anything else going forward.

Cue to a random email couple of weeks following that.

He invites me to a wrestling event a few months down the line, which would include a lot of my favorites that were at the time performing in then 2005-06 TNA-- and I thought screw it. Why not? I'm not really a "live events" kind of a dude, but hey...pretty neat opportunity to go to what was my then first wrestling show, and in an intimate setting in a small armory, so it would be up close.

I ended up having a really fun time. He was a complete 180 to the first time we met. So I chalked it up to maybe he was just nervous meeting another collector the first time, and quickly accepted when he had invited me to another a couple of years down the line.

When I tell you that this guy embarrassed the hell out of me this third time, that doesn't even half describe the situation.

Think of the scene in "I Love You, Man" when Peter goes to the soccer game with Lonnie: Trying to start and sustain chants that no one was interested in. And repeatedly. The same chants. But it was just him yelling in a sea of fairly quiet people. Yelling things at the wrestlers that made no sense. Heckling people. Grabbing me and trying to get me to join him.

And believe me when I say that if I'm not justifiably describing how bad it was, just know that it was even worse than that. I wanted to shrink into myself. Such a humiliating experience because people kept looking at me like "Dude, get your boy here in check".

I remember even Nigel McGuiness mid-match looking at him like "What is your deal, kid?". He did not pick up on the social cues of me, the other fans in attendance, or even the wrestlers. He asked if I wanted to grab a bite to eat after, and I made a poor excuse to get out of dodge, and that was the last time I've seen of him.

Long story long: glad you guys all found normalcy in the first meets. Lol
 
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Its a roll of the dice a little for sure, but you know theres at least one shared passion to talk about. I one time met a guy from Fwoosh who was looking to sell off a couple of figures I wanted. He currently lived in the town I grew up in and grew up in the city I live in, so when he was up visiting his parents he delivered the figures in person.... we hit it off well... so well that the next year he had his brother put my name on his list for professionals badges to SDCC. We did the con together, saw the world premiere of Scott Pilgrim together, went out drinking... had a blast.

He's still a friend on Facebook even though he gave up figure collecting when he had a baby.

I will say... of the maybe 10 times I've met up with folks that I met in online hobby forums, 8 of those were solid experiences where I happily hung out or would hang out with them a subsequent time.

The two instances that didn't go well were both people from comics forums. Everyone I met thru HC Realms, Fwoosh or AT has been awesome.
 
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RicksNerdLife said:
I'm a generally very laid-back and calm person, personality wise.
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Same, and I tend to shy away from people who are "too much".
RicksNerdLife said:
His energy was not my energy, which is fine, but it was not someone I could spend hours at a time with. He was a Golden Lab in human form, so my social battery drained quickly around him
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Yeah, I felt this. There's a woman at work I see for only a half hour every day and any personal questions she asks I answer monosyllabically because I just don't have it in me to get into anything at length with her. She also cannot read social cues..and she is an incredibly nice, pleasant, and positive person, she is just overwhelmingly so. Just imagining her smiling at me and loudly saying "oh, that is so wonderful!!" when I told her about my son getting into the math and science school he wanted (I actually was telling the person next to her, and learned my lesson there too) just makes my colon clench now. Again she is perfectly positive, so I know the fault is likely mine but this is who I am damnit.

Also, your guy.... Maybe he's a coke head?
 
Ru1977 said:
Also, your guy.... Maybe he's a coke head?
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Very well possible. Maybe? I don't know.

He ended up having a stroke at an incredibly young age, so it's possible it was a result of drug usage? Or maybe it rewired his brain chemistry a little bit? Hard to say.

I did feel absolutely horrible for him when it happened. He got hit pretty hard, losing usage of a lot of his right side. His fiancee ended up leaving him as a result. Rough stuff all around. So, maybe that played a part in where he was in life the third time we hung out.

No excuse to do what he was doing, in my eyes.
 
RicksNerdLife said:
Very well possible. Maybe? I don't know.

He ended up having a stroke at an incredibly young age, so it's possible it was a result of drug usage? Or maybe it rewired his brain chemistry a little bit? Hard to say.

I did feel absolutely horrible for him when it happened. He got hit pretty hard, losing usage of a lot of his right side. His fiancee ended up leaving him as a result. Rough stuff all around. So, maybe that played a part in where he was in life the third time we hung out.

No excuse to do what he was doing, in my eyes.
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No of course, and I don't wish energy vampires any ill at all, that's awful. One of my brothers-in-law is an on and off cokehead, so that's what it reminded me of. I've seen him normal, and I've seen him amped, so you can kinda tell with him at least. And he's had a few heart attack scares, that he's told us about anyway, but I think it will take something more severe for him to really quit.
 
This is a really really minor little thing, but my son had to do a diagram of his immediate family and give little facts (what they're obsessed with) for school (he just started high school). And he had to include pictures, but for me he used one from last Halloween of me in my Fett costume. (I don't actually wear it a bunch, just so you all know.) He told me, "I know you wouldn't like me to use your actual face," and ironically... I felt so seen by him.
 
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