I’m truly not clear on that, since she openly despised all but two of my serious partners ever. Fortunately, my wife is one of the two, but the other was the WORST one.
My parents, especially my mom, were always on my ass about dating, possibly because they are hardcore fundies and they were probably worried their theater loving son would be gay. Like you though, whenever I DID date, they absolutely hated her. One girlfriend they were pretty relentless with, to the point that she and I stayed together WAY longer than we probably would have just to spite them. If they'd just kept their mouths shut, she and I would likely have gone our separate ways in a few months...but we wound up dating for four freaking years!
Being largely clueless to romantic/sexual social cues, physically respectful to a fault but also a *tenacious* “never quit, make it work” serial monogamist, I have had a storied romantic life. You’d think I’d have been at least somewhat slutty by default since I’ve always been a “leading man” in packs of theatre kids literally my entire life, but I’ve barely ever been single while in productions, even going back to high school.
This is me as well. I was/am definitely a serial monogamist, and theater...well, I was usually the "token straight guy". I even tried, at one point, to be the slutty theater guy when I was doing a Rocky Horror shadow cast in-between shows. I can't speak to the psychology behind it, but when I was playing Frank N Furter I had more female attention than at any other time in my life, and hey...I tried to go with that rock star energy. It just didn't work for me...I'd inevitably wind up in a relationship, and I'd also feel terrible if I in any way hurt someone. Sure, I was upfront and honest about where things stood, but human nature being what it is...someone always gets hurt. I just don't like being that guy, so I inevitably wound up in a long term, monogamist relationship.
Ironically, theatre is one of the best hobbies/interests for a straight man to find a partner. That's real, actionable advice, incels. You won't get that from Joe Rogan.
For REAL. First off, you'll be a big fish in a little pond. Most of your castmates will either be ladies or gay men...and I'm not gonna lie...having gay men flirt with you is as much of a giant ego boost as it is from the ladies. Also, those gay dudes are gonna give you some great advice about whatever lady you're interested in. Hell, even if you aren't into getting on stage, then work the crew! Most productions need some crew people, and there is something to be said for a guy who is handy.
Oh no irony: I wasn’t single because I was literally always dating someone in or connected to the theatre.
Looking back on all my serious relationships, they were either castmates, or friends/family of castmates! My first wife? Met her in a theater production. Second wife? She was a relative of a castmate I became friends with (and we started dating after she came to a show I was in). My current s/o? Yeah, met her through some theater nerd friends. It's a running theme throughout my life!
This isn't a slight against you: a person's chances are much better when the women outnumber you 5:1.
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Oh man, in High School I wound up becoming friends with most of the Football team, which was odd since I wasn't athletic at all. One of the football guys figured out that the choir was full of hot girls, and decided to take it as an elective. The next year, half the team was taking choir! I got to know all those guys because of it, and even persuaded a couple of them to join the theater group too. I was a geeky, gothic theater guy who usually hung out with the punks and skaters....but I had all these jock friends too. It was surreal! Sure, it narrowed my dating pool because so many dudes were suddenly in choir, but that was okay since I had the theater thing going for me.